I almost cried in a session. I sat there listening to my client tell me how she said “no”. Her first “no”. This was the beginning of her confidence and trust building with herself. She could withstand the uncomfortableness and stand up for herself. Hallelujah
People pleasers are creative. They come up with all types of ways to say “I’m sorry.” They are so used to saying it that it just automatically shows up in their everyday interactions. I recently counted all the times and the different ways I brought in that dreaded “I’m sorry” into convos. You’d be amazed.
People pleasers don’t like anger. At least that is what they believe. Anger is both uncomfortable and it separates us from others. Something pleasers can’t tolerate. But what are we supposed to do when we feel anger? Because we will. We can’t escape it.