I talk a lot with clients about their inner critics because its one of the first inner voices we hear. One client told me, "If my critic isn't on me all the time, my world will come down like a ton of bricks." They have to consider every angle of everything. Why do we get caught in our critics so easily?

I am not sure I have ever been in a place like this before. It was my tipping point. A clear as day message to myself, "I create my own suffering." So now what? No one is going to lead the charge to change but me. Crap. Well, here goes nothing.

And we often judge and avoid anger or conflict bc we FELT what it was like to receive it, but we cant avoid feeling anger because we are human. But we judge our anger as we judged the angry person's expression of it. 

People pleasers, caretakers, those with codependency, we live with the mistaken belief that being needed equals feeling connected.Not so.